Sexual Objectification is Not a Human Right

Updated: May 2, 2021

A common statement I hear from those critical of medicalizing children’s bodies to conform to some illusive gender identity, creating life-long medical patients, is that they don’t care what adults choose to do with their bodies. The exception is for children.

We better start caring.

To choose to appropriate the body parts of the opposite sex is sexual objectification. It exploits human wholeness, rooted in sex and renders it into parts to be reassembled into, not only a costume, but a commodity for use by another. For as bad as other avenues of sexual objectification and exploitation are - and they are terrible - we at least understand they’re not positive, let alone a human right. Even prostitution, which has been euphemistically rebranded to “sex work,” by some, is at least not being sold to us, via corporations, as a positive lifestyle expression. Goldman Sachs, so far, has no coming out ceremonies at their banks for prostitutes and workshops for allies of prostitutes, as they do for men who appropriate women’s body parts. We do not yet have a “prostitute’s day of visibility,” nor do we have feminists, even those supporting prostitution as a work model, calling for a celebration of prostitute’s visibility.

This terrible blind spot, of many feminists protecting men who appropriate the sexed body parts of women, is a facet of our conditioning to femininity: to defer to men, to emotionally protect and take care of them at cost to ourselves, especially if they present themselves as vulnerable.

One trans widow, describing her relationship with her autogynephilic husband, for an article about her marriage and it’s disruption, stated "For his part, Tom's perspective was that if I loved him, I would accept that a transsexual has to do what a transsexual has to do – and sacrifice my own identity accordingly."

This conditioning to demure to men and to emotionally protect them, at cost to our own well-being, is how the Boston Strangler got into so many women’s apartments in a metropolitan city, where women know well the dangers of inviting strange men into their homes. It’s how Ted Bundy, wooed his victims into isolation and to their ultimate deaths. Bundy, often walked with his arm in a cast, at night, on college campuses, while fumbling with books or a kayak, near his car, to invite lone women’s help, and help they did.

The Boston Strangler and Ted Bundy were not just killers, they didn’t just sexually objectify women, they were “nice” men. The Boston strangler was reportedly charming. Ted Bundy had women writing to him in prison after he was convicted. Ann Rule wrote a book about their friendship and their camaraderie working together at a suicide hotline. He was described by her (and others) as clever and seemed to genuinely care about the people he saved via the hotline. Serial killers are often family men, with outstanding community relations.

Ed Gein, was the inspiration for many films, including "Psycho", "Silence of the Lambs", and "Texas Chainsaw Massacre" due to his decision that the only way to become a woman was to turn her into this seasons latest rage in bodysuits, as reported by Zooey Norman in TheThings.

Norman writes, “anyone who knew Gein, skinning aside, described him as the kindest person they knew. Everyone was genuinely shocked when they found out exactly what his wardrobe and furniture were made out of.”

As an activist fighting the gender industry, I am often asked, “but do you know any "trans" people?”

The point is not that individual men with the fetish of appropriating female body parts are killers (though obviously some are), but that women (and men) accept this particular brand of sexual objectification of our bodies, by others, at our own peril. We must stop normalizing this fetish in public and the commodification of body parts that it is creating.

Donovan Cleckley, in a recent and wonderful piece of reporting on trans widows, describes the experiences of @transwidows. Discussing the sexual relationships with males who exhibit autogynephilia, she calls the psycho-sexual gas-lighting these men play out with their wives, “topping from the bottom.” “The man with autogynephilia more often than not has a fantasy of being submissive and, to indulge in this fantasy, has to rope in the only person available- his wife- who is usually varying degrees of unwilling. He then sets all of the parameters of the encounter and acts out submission, persuading and coercing his wife to take the supposedly dominant role,” explains